EXPLORING THE WORLD OF DATING WHEN YOU HAVE A DISABILITY

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Whether you have a disability or not the dating scene can be a very scary place. I know for a fact that I absolutely despise the idea of going out on a date even if I do usually enjoy myself once I’m there. It’s just that initial meet that is the really scary and a nerve-racking part right? Please tell me I’m not the only one!

It’s even more so when you feel like you’re different from the perfect “normal” person. Do I tell them about my disability beforehand or will that scare them away? This is something I used to ask myself all the time when talking to someone new.

Yes, It’s probably true that there are a lot more aspects to consider when dating with a disability but that does not mean it’s impossible. I am a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone and that includes us with disabilities. Ever heard the saying ‘one mans trash is another man’s treasure’ well that’s the exact same for the world of dating too.

If you are disabled and looking for advice on how to approach the world of dating then look no further. On the other hand, if you are someone who considers themselves not to have a disability then;

1) Lucky you!

2) Don’t judge what you don’t understand.

and…

3) You might not have considered snuggling up to one of us before but I’m about to show you exactly why you should.

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BENEFITS OF USING DATING SITES:

The internet is a fantastic place that has made it so simple to meet new people. There are so many different free resources made available that you can almost find love anywhere on the web. I have had my fair share of online dating site experiences and I can safely say I would recommend it to all my friends.

These days you can even find dating sites that are specific for your requirements. Whether you’re looking for toyboy dating, cougar dating, men in uniform dating, blind dates or even amputee dating. There is quite literally something out there for everyone so don’t think that because you have a disability you can’t get involved.

One of the best things about dating sites is that you can put exactly what you are looking for and find them in a few simple clicks. Nobody wants to waste their money, time and effort on expensive dates when it’s not likely to go any further. At least with online dating, you don’t have to leave your house and can still meet someone on an intimate level. Whether you are looking for love or companionship a dating site can really help you find what you are after.

Even more so nowadays with COVID-19 still being in the air…

BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE:

There are SO many different types of disabilities out there that it’s almost impossible to keep track. You’ve got cognitive disabilities, impaired hearing, amputees, and mental health disabilities just to name a few. Some of which you wouldn’t have even considered being a disability in the first place.

I know from my own personal experience that it’s taken me a long time to accept who I am. I was always ashamed of my problems and forever hid them from the world. Nobody would know I suffered the way I do just by looking at me. Now I’ve learnt to embrace the person I am and use it to my own advantage. I love to openly talk about my disability and help people who are struggling with similar conditions.

PHYSICAL DISABILITY/CONDITION:

Who’s to say that just because you’ve only got 3 toes, 1 leg and a missing elbow that you aren’t worthy of love and affection. I call that bulls*t with a capital B! (excuse my French)

Maybe you require a wheelchair to move around? Not a problem, it just means that when we go on our date to Alton Towers we get to skip the queues on all the good rides! It’s time to see the positives rather than the negatives and start living your life to the full.

Of course, amputee’s aren’t the only type of physically disabilities out there but it’s definitely one that unfortunately gets a lot of stigmas. The reality is that people love to stare and that quite often can give people the feeling of inadequacy.

By potentially using a site that caters specifically for your needs will help you to boost your confidence and know your worth. There are plenty of sites out there that can help to find someone who wants the exact same as you. For example; check out this free amputee dating site which will allow you to put all your cards on the table and find someone who will look beyond your disability.

FINDING YOUR PERFECT MATCH:

I never thought I would find someone who would accept me for the way I am but I did. Matt has been nothing but wonderful to me and has helped me through many times where I’ve been struggling. This is the kind of relationship that everyone deserves to experience. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my fair share of negative dating experiences but overall the dating world has been good for me. Even more so now that I have Matt in my life.

Matt and I both have our difficulties but we have learnt to accept and support each other’s needs. Matt has dyslexia, Aspergers and struggles horrendously with tidying up after himself (don’t think that ones a disability though). I, on the other hand, have been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder (also known as EUPD). We could not be further from the opposite of one another but I guess that’s what makes us work. You know what they say “opposites attract” and they sure weren’t wrong there.

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Please do not let your disabilities get in the way of you finding love because you deserve it just as much as anyone else. I would also like to remind you that you shouldn’t feel ashamed of online dating as much as it’s a taboo subject. I believe that online dating is a wonderful idea, an idea that has allowed me to meet some fantastic people in my life.

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16 Comments

  1. October 4, 2020 / 9:24 pm

    Beautiful post! Dating in general can be hard but at the end of the day, everybody is worthy of love and everyone deserves a chance.
    Saph x

    http://www.simplysaph.co.uk

    • October 4, 2020 / 9:31 pm

      That’s very true! Thank you so much for your comment ☺️❤️

  2. October 5, 2020 / 5:42 am

    “One of the best things about dating sites is that you can put exactly what you are looking for and find them in a few simple clicks.”

    I’m glad that works for some people. It never did for me when I was looking. I have more thoughts on this topic, but it’s probably not worth sharing. I’m at the point now if this whatever-it-is that I’m in now doesn’t work, I’m ready to accept that I’m just not meant to be with anyone.

    • October 5, 2020 / 5:45 am

      Don’t worry Greg I too have had my fair share of people not interested in me but that just means that it obviously wasn’t what I was looking for. I always go into dating sites with the idea of meeting new people/friends before a partner and I can safely say that’s worked wonders for me. If things progress then that’s even better.

      Please don’t give up because I think you are a wonderful, intelligent and socialable person and there is someone out there for everyone!

      • October 5, 2020 / 6:05 am

        That’s exactly what I always did. I went into it wanting to get to know someone first, and when I didn’t try to meet up in person right away. Most of the women I met in person never spoke to me again after that, and the few that did, if I didn’t say that I was ready for a long term relationship and/or to go to bed with her after a couple weeks, she would lose interest.

        • October 5, 2020 / 9:53 am

          I’m sorry you’ve had this experience. It actually seems as if you’ve had a lucky escape as they clearly weren’t the women for you. Have faith, work on yourself, build yourself up and the right person will walk into your life without realising x

          • October 5, 2020 / 3:38 pm

            That first part is true… there’s more going on than what I can share here, though. I’ll message you privately later.

          • October 5, 2020 / 3:51 pm

            No worries Greg! My inbox is always open 💛

  3. October 5, 2020 / 3:33 pm

    This is such a lovely post, Ashleigh. You’re absolutely right, we all need to be proud of who we are and to hell with anyone who can’t accept us for who and what we are. I’m so glad you and Matt found each other 🙂 x

    • October 5, 2020 / 3:52 pm

      Thank you so much Lisa! I really appreciate your comment ☺️💛

  4. October 5, 2020 / 3:58 pm

    You make great points. Anticipation is the worst part of any new situation, and it can stop many of us cold. Stepping out of our comfort zones is when the magic happens! Thanks for sharing.

    • October 5, 2020 / 5:03 pm

      You couldn’t be anymore right if you tried! Absolutely spot on ☺️ thanks for taking the time to read and comment x

  5. Edna
    October 9, 2020 / 2:17 pm

    Such an important topic and such a lovely couple! X

  6. October 14, 2020 / 4:17 pm

    Great informative post Ash and also in agreement dating sites can do you miracles I have been in that route. By the way thank you for sharing this and wishing you the best of the good life ahead with your loved one.

    • October 16, 2020 / 1:14 pm

      Thank you so much for that lovely! 🙂 xx

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