C SECTION AWARENESS MONTH – LET’S HELP SPREAD POSITIVITY

Here I am! very late to the bandwagon as always but that’s just me. If you didn’t already know April is c section awareness month. Yay for us caesarean mamas! The reason I wanted to get involved in this event and share my story is because of the lack of positive stories I’ve seen. I see so many women sharing their negative caesarean experiences and it upset me. Throughout my pregnancy I often read about women being petrified of having to have a c-section. Saying they felt robbed of having that ‘perfect’ natural birth that they had imagined. This breaks my heart because no mother should be made to feel that way and that’s exactly why I’m here today.

On the 21st May 2019, I gave birth (yes, I said birth) to my daughter via an emergency c section. It wasn’t what I had expected but It was no way near as bad as I thought it was going to be. I want to help spread awareness so that all you mums-to-be know about every birthing option available.

SO WITHOUT FURTHER ADO HERE IS MY STORY:

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Now I’ve got your attention let’s talk giving birth & expecting the unexpected.

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WHAT IS A CAESAREAN?

A caesarean is a procedure used to bring babies into this world when a vaginal birth carries a higher risk of complications. This surgery is carried out by cutting an incision just above your bikini line. This cut is usually between 4-6 inches long. I was very worried about the scar being visible but it’s actually very small. There are many reasons as to why a c section may be performed. The reason for mine was because I had been in labour for a very long time and nothing was progressing anymore. By letting it carry on too long it could have increased the chances of infection. This would have also been very dangerous for Alexis and I. If it wasn’t for the surgery I think I could have been sitting there for a good week or not at all.

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Some other reasons may include:

  • If a baby is in a feet first position also known as the breech position.
  • The mother has gone into premature labour.
  • Labour does not progress in a normal manner.
  • There is a viral infection.
  • The mother has placenta praevia; a condition in which the placenta is low lying and covers part of the entrance to the womb.

MY LABOUR AND BEING INDUCED EXPERIENCE:

Before having Alexis I was petrified about giving birth. Everything about it freaked me out but I mostly think it was the unknown I was afraid of. Being a first-time mum is scary enough without spending 9 months reading horrific forums. If you take anything away from today’s post please let it be known that forums are not helpful (each to their own of course).

My waters broke at exactly 39 weeks pregnant however, I did not naturally go into labour. I was instructed to go to my local hospital to be examined and make sure everything was ok. They wired me up to the machine and made sure that my little lady was safe and sound. As she was comfy and wasn’t in any distress I was told to go home and see if labour would naturally occur overnight. Unfortunately, nothing happened so I was booked in to be induced the next day.

When I was induced things started to progress very quickly but annoyingly the process slowed down. Eventually, after a total of 48 hours! I had stopped at 8 cms and nothing was progressing further. Luckily for me, I had the epidural very early on and did not feel a single pain throughout my whole labour. It was unfortunately just a very uncomfortable long wait to meet my little girl. In the end, I was elected for an emergency caesarean by the head midwife on the ward. If anything I was quite thankful as at this point I just wanted it over. I’d been there waiting for long enough and I was so ready to meet her now!

C SECTION RECOVERY:

Let’s be real here, the afterbirth isn’t going to be nice. Whether you have a home birth, hospital birth or a natural birth at the birthing centre… It’s not going to be the most pleasant experience you’ve ever had. Whichever experience you end up with there’s still a pretty hefty recovery period. For c sections, it can take up to 6 weeks for your scar to heal probably and can take around 8 months for everything to go back to normal.

Things You Should Know:

  • The first few days are the most uncomfortable.
  • Having your bandage removed does not hurt. No way as bad as you’d imagine it to anyway.
  • You can still bleed a lot after a c section birth.
  • Your first wee is the most difficult thing to do because of being numbed for so long.
  • It takes a little while for the feeling to come back (doesn’t stop you from being able to hold your baby – most of the time)
  • Remember to keep on moving to help prevent blood clots.
  • You may become anaemic due to loss of blood.
  • You may need to inject yourself at home to prevent blood clots (I had to do this for a total of 10 days).
  • Your scar is a lot lower than you’d think.
  • Nothing comes easy in life – especially if it’s worth it!
  • I would 100% elect for a Caesarean again.
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ADVICE FOR FIRST TIME MUMS GIVING BIRTH:

It’s completely normal to be nervous and feel scared. Everyone talks about ‘labour’ Being the most excruciating pain you will ever feel in your entire life so naturally, you would be. Don’t get me wrong, it might be! I have no idea what’s going to happen and how your body will react but just have faith in yourself. Like I’ve said before nothing comes easy in life but my god are they worth it. My nan always told me that it would be the hardest days work you’ll ever have to do but you’ll come out with the biggest promotion.

It’s important to remember that no two birth stories are the same. If you were to ask me I would rather give birth than go through pregnancy again. If anything pregnancy was far worse for me. My best friend however, sailed through pregnancy but had a traumatic forceps birth. She’s now at home with her beautiful little bundle of joy and completely in love. Does she look back and think I don’t ever want to do that again? No. Does she also want to have more children in the future? Yes!

I once read this quote and it’s something that’s stuck with me for a long time. “Whenever and however you intend to give birth, your experience will impact your emotions, your mind, your body and your spirit for the rest of your life” – Ina May Gaskin. Please remember mama, you are not alone. If you have any questions do not hesitate to message me. My Twitter and Instagram inboxes are always open.

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19 Comments

  1. April 28, 2020 / 7:59 pm

    This was a really interesting read! I had no idea c sections had a month dedicated to them. I don’t have kids but my own entrance to the world was similar to your delivery. Waters broke, she was induced and nothing happened, stopped at 4cm and I started to get a bit stressed in there so my mum had a C. Interesting that you said birth though because she always says she’s never given birth. It’s great that you’re sharing your positive story and would opt for one again. Other than the longer recovery time I’m not sure why so many people are so against them x

    Sophie

    • May 2, 2020 / 9:20 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive story Ashleigh, it’s a great message to be putting out there! I’m not a mum just yet, but I like reading up ready for the future! I would never look at a C-section as not giving birth, you still birthed your baby girl and that’s a beautiful thing!

      • May 3, 2020 / 5:24 pm

        Thank you lovely! That’s exactly how I see it myself but unfortunately, some people don’t! I just wanted to help spread some positivity when it comes to babies, births and c sections πŸ™‚

        Thanks for reading lovely xxx

  2. Matthew Stilwell
    April 29, 2020 / 7:29 am

    Wow great post babe! Look how big she got now! Well done!!

    • April 29, 2020 / 7:30 am

      Thank you so much 😊 I know right! I can’t believe it ☺️xx

  3. April 30, 2020 / 9:40 am

    This was such an interesting post and I’m glad you’re talking about it. I used to work in an environment where I’d see a lot of pregnant mums & like you, many of them had been on forums & were terrified by what they had read. If more people are able to speak positively about it, it would help so many more mums to be. Great post

    • April 30, 2020 / 2:28 pm

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my post! I’m so glad you’ve also experienced that side and know how upsetting it is to see. Giving birth isn’t lovely but it kind of is at the same time! Thanks for sharing your comment πŸ™‚ xx

  4. April 30, 2020 / 1:43 pm

    I didn’t realise April was C-section month! I had to have an emergency C-section because Flora was late and just didn’t want come out. Turns out she had the cord wrapped around her neck as well so there was never going to be a natural happy birth. My experience wasn’t great, I was in intensive care for 48 hours after losing over half my blood supply, but all’s well that ends well, as they say. Glad your story was a positive one and Alexis is beautiful πŸ™‚ Lisa x

    • April 30, 2020 / 2:27 pm

      I didn’t either until the other day so I rushed rushed rushed to get my story out! I’m so sorry to hear about your story lovely! I’m just so glad to you are Flora are both ok now. I guess I was lucky with my experience and others not so much!

      But thank you for taking the time to read and comment πŸ™‚ xx

  5. Josie
    April 30, 2020 / 8:35 pm

    So proud of you! One of the best moments of my life xxx

    • May 2, 2020 / 8:55 pm

      Thank you mum! Appreciate that lots 😘

  6. May 2, 2020 / 8:54 pm

    I was born via C-section. Although there are concerns about the scar, it is a safe alternative if there are complications through natural birth. I never knew about these things you have shared. Glad that the scarring isn’t as bad as we would imagine. Thanks for sharing your story and knowledge!

    Nancy β™₯ exquisitely.me

  7. May 3, 2020 / 7:34 pm

    Firstly, Alexis is so beautiful and adorable, I love the photos! Secondly, I love how you’re bringing awareness to this with nothing but positivity! There’s definitely a lot of information on the negative side that makes the procedure seem scary but I love the information you’re sharing here. Great post!

    Anika | chaptersofmay.com

    • May 4, 2020 / 6:44 am

      oh thank you so much. Your comment has done nothing but make me smile so much! I really appreciate you taking the time to read and comment πŸ™‚

  8. May 4, 2020 / 11:00 am

    Alexis is so beautiful and it was lovely to read your positive birth story! I didn’t know much about C-sections, so it’s nice to read something informative and reassuring with lots of useful things to know. I’m glad your experience went smoothly, even though the long labour must have been uncomfortable – like you say, it was well worth it in the end to meet your adorable baby. Thank you for spreading awareness Ashleigh, such a helpful and comforting post for mums-to-be! <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  9. nortoncharity
    May 4, 2020 / 12:59 pm

    I did not know it was C Section awareness month! Thanks for bringing awareness to this important subject!

  10. Melissa Kacar
    May 5, 2020 / 7:49 am

    This was such an interesting post to read and I love that you’re raising awareness for this! Alexis is so beautiful and I’m happy to hear you had an overall positive birthing experience. Thanks for sharing! I hope you and your family are doing well! πŸ™‚

    melissakacar.blogspot.com

    • May 6, 2020 / 8:06 pm

      Thank you for taking the time to read lovely! xxx

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