Here I am! very late to the bandwagon as always but that’s just me. If you didn’t already know April is c section awareness month. Yay for us caesarean mamas! The reason I wanted to get involved in this event and share my story is because of the lack of positive stories I’ve seen. I see so many women sharing their negative caesarean experiences and it upset me. Throughout my pregnancy, I often read about women being petrified of having to have a c-section. Saying they felt robbed of having that ‘perfect’ natural birth that they had imagined. This breaks my heart because no mother should be made to feel that way and that’s exactly why I’m here today.
On the 21st May 2019, I gave birth (yes, I said birth) to my daughter via an emergency c section. It wasn’t what I had expected but It was no way near as bad as I thought it was going to be. I want to help spread awareness so that all you mums-to-be know about every birthing option available.
SO WITHOUT FURTHER ADO HERE IS MY STORY:
Now I’ve got your attention let’s talk giving birth & expecting the unexpected.
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WHAT IS A CAESAREAN?
A caesarean is a procedure used to bring babies into this world when a vaginal birth carries a higher risk of complications. This surgery is carried out by cutting an incision just above your bikini line. This cut is usually between 4-6 inches long. I was very worried about the scar being visible but it’s actually very small. There are many reasons as to why a c section may be performed. The reason for mine was because I had been in labour for a very long time and nothing was progressing anymore. By letting it carry on too long it could have increased the chances of infection. This would have also been very dangerous for Alexis and I. If it wasn’t for the surgery I think I could have been sitting there for a good week or not at all.
Some other reasons may include:
- If a baby is in a feet first position also known as the breech position.
- The mother has gone into premature labour.
- Labour does not progress in a normal manner.
- There is a viral infection.
- The mother has placenta praevia; a condition in which the placenta is low lying and covers part of the entrance to the womb.
MY LABOUR AND BEING INDUCED EXPERIENCE:
Before having Alexis I was petrified about giving birth. Everything about it freaked me out but I mostly think it was the unknown I was afraid of. Being a first-time mum is scary enough without spending 9 months reading horrific forums. If you take anything away from today’s post please let it be known that forums are not helpful (each to their own of course).
My waters broke at exactly 39 weeks pregnant however, I did not naturally go into labour. I was instructed to go to my local hospital to be examined and make sure everything was ok. They wired me up to the machine and made sure that my little lady was safe and sound. As she was comfy and wasn’t in any distress I was told to go home and see if labour would naturally occur overnight. Unfortunately, nothing happened so I was booked in to be induced the next day.
When I was induced things started to progress very quickly but annoyingly the process slowed down. Eventually, after a total of 48 hours! I had stopped at 8 cms and nothing was progressing further. Luckily for me, I had the epidural very early on and did not feel a single pain throughout my whole labour. It was unfortunately just a very uncomfortable long wait to meet my little girl. In the end, I was elected for an emergency caesarean by the head midwife on the ward. If anything I was quite thankful as at this point I just wanted it over. I’d been there waiting for long enough and I was so ready to meet her now!
C SECTION RECOVERY:
Let’s be real here, the afterbirth isn’t going to be nice. Whether you have a home birth, hospital birth or a natural birth at the birthing centre… It’s not going to be the most pleasant experience you’ve ever had. Whichever experience you end up with there’s still a pretty hefty recovery period. For c sections, it can take up to 6 weeks for your scar to heal probably and can take around 8 months for everything to go back to normal.
Don’t worry you aren’t alone in this journey! we’ve all been there and it’s important to know what to expect and what is the best way to heal post-birth. If you are interested in knowing more then there’s lots of advice on how your body changes after pregnancy and giving birth right here.
THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW:
- The first few days are the most uncomfortable.
- Having your bandage removed does not hurt. No way as bad as you’d imagine it to anyway.
- You can still bleed a lot after a c section birth.
- Your first wee is the most difficult thing to do because of being numbed for so long.
- It takes a little while for the feeling to come back (doesn’t stop you from being able to hold your baby – most of the time)
- Remember to keep on moving to help prevent blood clots.
- You may become anaemic due to loss of blood.
- You may need to inject yourself at home to prevent blood clots (I had to do this for a total of 10 days).
- Your scar is a lot lower than you’d think.
- Nothing comes easy in life – especially if it’s worth it!
- I would 100% elect for a Caesarean again.
ADVICE FOR FIRST TIME MUMS GIVING BIRTH:
It’s completely normal to be nervous and feel scared. Everyone talks about ‘labour’ Being the most excruciating pain you will ever feel in your entire life so naturally, you would be. Don’t get me wrong, it might be! I have no idea what’s going to happen and how your body will react but just have faith in yourself. Like I’ve said before nothing comes easy in life but my god are they worth it. My nan always told me that it would be the hardest days work you’ll ever have to do but you’ll come out with the biggest promotion.
It’s important to remember that no two birth stories are the same. If you were to ask me I would rather give birth than go through pregnancy again. If anything pregnancy was far worse for me. My best friend, however, sailed through pregnancy but had a traumatic forceps birth. She’s now at home with her beautiful little bundle of joy and completely in love. Does she look back and think I don’t ever want to do that again? No. Does she also want to have more children in the future? Yes!