Let’s Talk Giving Birth & Expecting The Unexpected

As many of you will know, I recently gave birth to my beautiful daughter Alexis. After spending 5 days in the hospital, I feel that I definitely earned the right to share my experience. I don’t know about you but the one thing I was looking forward to was being able to join in with all those conversations where mothers tell their story. Did you have an unmedicated birth? C-section? Pain relief? What’s your story? Well, here is mine.

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My Birth Story:

On the 21st of May 2019, I gave birth to a little baby girl named Alexis Corrine Stilwell. She weighed a whopping 7lb 8oz and was birthed via emergency C-section.

My daughters birth couldn’t have been further from what I would have expected. That doesn’t necessarily mean it was a bad experience, it was just completely different from what I had spent 9 months imagining. I wanted to share my story today so that people realise that no matter how your experience planned out, you’re still an amazingly strong woman who birthed their baby.

Saturday 18th May – Oh No, My Waters Have Broken:

I was constantly told that when your waters break you will know about it and my god was that true for me. After many previous times I ‘thought’ my waters had broke when in reality I was just peeing myself, the day had finally arrived.

I was home alone and had just managed to get up and wander down the stairs to make some breakfast. I had barely reached the bottom step before I absolutely flooded my PJ bottoms. The first thing I noticed was that it was impossible to stop it from happening. No matter how hard you tried to squeeze and prevent the ‘flood’ from occurring, you just could not stop it. And that’s how I knew for the first time in my pregnancy I had not wet myself. Although, I would like to remind you that this is not the same for everyone. It can be followed by either a trickle or gush of fluid depending on the individual.

Sunday 19th May – Getting Monitored:

Sunday morning arrived and we headed into hospital nice and early to be monitored. I was given my own room and waited for a midwife to arrive. They then attached me onto a monitor so they could check babies heartbeat and make sure that everything was progressing fine. After a few hours of a thorough check, I was sent home and told to look for signs of labour beginning overnight. If nothing was to progress naturally I was booked in to be induced on Monday morning. Of course, nothing but a few twinges here and there and before I knew it, it was Monday.

Monday 20th May – The Labour:

I won’t deny that when the day started I could not contain my excitement. My little baby and I would soon meet after what feels like the hardest, longest wait of my life. We arrived at the hospital and because nothing had progressed I was given a pessary. This is placed just inside of the vagina and is there to help labour start. This was not painful in the slightest, however, within five or so minutes my contractions begun and they started getting closer and closer together. Within 15 minutes I was having contractions every 40 seconds and lasting a minute and a half.

The beginning…

That excitement very quickly disappeared because I was scared. I began to seriously panic as it all happened so suddenly. I’d never had a baby before and in my eyes, I thought I was ready to push (ridiculous I know). I was then examined by the midwife to see how I was progressing. I promised to be completely honest with you and so I will, Being examined hurts ok! It hurt the most out of everything throughout my whole labour and birth. The only thing I can say to make you feel better is the fact it is over very quickly.

You can imagine my devastation when I was then told by the midwife that still nothing had progressed. I was in pain and I could not believe nothing had even happened yet. The thing that made this worse for me was the fact it was so sudden and I was having a panic attack. After this, I was then offered Pethidine which is an injection in my bum cheek. For me, this was the best thing I could have taken as it helped me become calm and relaxed. I have heard that this doesn’t always work for everyone but for me it was AMAZING.

The Middle…

After 2 hours I was moved to the delivery suite where I would stay until my baby arrived. This room was surprisingly lovely and I was very happy that I ended up choosing the hospital over the birthing centre. The midwife came in very soon after to ask if I was planning to have pain relief to which I replied yes. She then arranged for me to have a mobile epidural placed in my spine which sounds awful but was a life saver. From the moment I had the epidural put in I had zero pain throughout my whole 13 hours of labour.

I was examined multiple times throughout the next few hours but of course, I felt nothing due to being completely numb. At this point, I couldn’t have cared a less anyway. I was beyond exhausted due to having not slept in almost 2 days. Even still after all this, not much was happening and I still was not progressing. Many hours past by and eventually I managed to get to 7cm but the midwife informed me that nothing else would happen. My little girls head was tilted and wasn’t going anywhere.

What’s next? Ah, it’s the end.

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Tuesday 21st May – The Birth:

By this point I was well and truly done, I was so over it! I had 12 hours worth of epidural inside my body and I was completely delirious. People were talking to me and I could not even keep my eyes open. I was then informed that because of the no progression I would have to have an emergency c-section. For someone who was petrified of the ‘pushing’ stage, I was actually extremely happy about this. The operation took a total of around 40 minutes and before I knew it I was back in the room with my family.

There we have it, my birthing story. It was completely different from anything I expected. That doesn’t entirely mean it was worse and that doesn’t entirely mean it was better. I think I was just proud that I had done it and had pulled through the other side feeling pretty ok. I would love to hear how all of your birthing experiences went. Make sure to share your story in the comment section below!

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6 Comments

  1. Hannah bishop
    October 15, 2019 / 3:21 pm

    What a amazing story!

    So here’s my story,

    Inducement day 29 th August 2018
    Arrived at pembury hospital just after 8am I got given my own room and the midwife’s put me on the monitor as I had complications throughout my pregnancy ( my little girl tried coming at 21 weeks) as I have back problems I am not allowed over my due date and if I have to have a c section I have to be put asleep as not aloud the epidural. I was checked every 4 throughout the day it was about half 2 in the afternoon and my contractions was coming very regular I wasn’t feeling my contractions though so I didn’t know when I was getting them, the midwife did her check and I was 3 and half cm dilated and was classed as in labour, and was ready to go down to delivery.

    Day 2 of inducement
    I was put back on the monitor as baby stopped moving thoughout the night, thankfully everything was all okay, they said to me they was going to do anymore inducement procedures for the time being as my body was dilating it self, I asked to go home but was told no due to being induced and risk of infection so as I sat Thier on the bed twirling my thumbs thumbs waiting for something to happen a midwife came round as said I was going down to delivery that day but for now to go for a walk which I did, later that evening I was told I wasn’t going down which left me so upset.

    Day 3
    Monited again for a hour midwife then did her check and I was 4 cm dilated and again was told I was going down to delivery at some point today, so I decided to go for a walk around the hospital again didn’t know the hospital had so many stairs , I was still getting contractions which I wasn’t feeling went back up to the ward and went to my room 5 minutes later a midwife and surgeon walked in and said that my baby was back to back and I had to decide if I wanted to deliver her natural or have a c section at that point I was panicking , I then decided I wanted to try natural as I didn’t want to be asleep when my baby was born.

    Day 4
    Midwife came in at 6am and said I am not going to get your hopes up but you may be going down to delivery today, but for now Hannah I would like to do a sweep and another inducement procedure and I was fine with that as I by this point I had enough and wanted my baby girl out, she done what she needed to do and told me to go for a walk, later that evening my midwife for delivery came up to collect me, as soon as I got down to delivery I was put on the monitor for 4 hours, at 10pm my waters got broken and I was told to go for a walk, I got down to Costa coffee where I had the urge to push so I was rushed back up to deilvery, my midwife got me on the bed but I was so uncomfortable I got off the bed and squatted by the door where I started to push, once I was back on the bed I was so tired as didn’t sleep for 3 days and my body was ready to give up and I just kept saying I can’t do this wheb my partner and my mum said you havnt got a choice your a strong woman you can do this. Little did I know my whole labour was 27 hours in total. I was falling asleep in between pushing . I was asked if I needed pain relief but I was turning it down, so didn’t have no pain relief, at 3:58am on the 2nd September 2018 I welcomed my beautiful baby girl into the world weighing 7lb 12oz they was right she was as back to back and the cord was around her neck. So this is my labour and delivery story

    • October 16, 2019 / 11:19 am

      Oh wow, I find it amazing to see how different everyone’s stories were! sounds like it was an extremely long process for you. That was my main issue as it was long as well, I was just so tired by the end of it. Thanks for sharing your story!

      P.s. Your little girl is beautiful xxx

  2. Rachel
    October 15, 2019 / 3:21 pm

    4am waters went contractions and hour later 5 mins apart an hour later 3 mins apart (midwives didn’t believe me…) finally after another gush of waters allowed in birthing suite then stayed in pool with gas and air until 5pm I said she was coming (midwives didn’t believe me again) she arrived 5:03pm 7lb 1oz no crying just calm. Small stitch clean up and home at 10pm. The most straightforward labour I could have imagined and was very thankful for!!

    • October 15, 2019 / 4:39 pm

      Oh wow! I actually love hearing other people’s stories! Very positive and sounds like you had a good experience

  3. Edna
    November 22, 2019 / 4:36 pm

    Congratulations! She is absolutely beautiful ❤️

  4. November 27, 2019 / 9:06 am

    First of all, congratulations! Second, giving birth sounds so damn scary! Whether you’re pushing or c-section!
    Good job mumma! 🙂 She’s a cutie!

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