A breakup is something that unfortunately all of us will inevitability experience at one point or another. It’s important to realise that it’s normal to feel sad and that being hurt is ok. No break up is ever nice but with these tips and tricks, you’ll be back out on the dating scene before you know it.
I’m no love guru but I am a girl who’s had her heart broken and I did manage to pull through stronger than ever. So if I aim for anything today it would be to have you finish reading this post feeling like a strong, independent woman who does not need a man (or of course, a lady if you swing that way).
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How To Successfully Get Over A Break Up Like A Grown Ass Woman
Talk About How You Feel:
Making sure you give yourself time to grieve is probably the most important stage of getting through heartache. It sucks, there’s no doubt about it and it’s important to understand that you’re allowed to be sad.
It’s extremely important to surround yourself with people who make you realise your worth. By this, I don’t mean jump straight on Tinder and seek the attention you feel that you’re missing out on. But instead surrounding yourself with friends and family. If it wasn’t for my best friends and my mum during the time of my break up I would not have made it through.
Many a day and night I spent crying on the shoulders of my friends and that’s perfectly fine. They dealt with my misery, listened and let me get it all out of my system. If you have friends like this in your life don’t ever let them go because they are so special.
Make Sure To Let Go Of Any Hurt or Anger:
You’ve cried for a week straight but now it’s time to accept. Although, that’s easier said than done now is the best time to let go off any bad feelings you once had. That does not mean that what they may have done to you is acceptable but it does mean that it’s time to move on.
When you experience angry during the break up of a relationship you are ultimately just causing yourself unnecessary stress. Wasting energy trying to determine whose fault it is, or who you can blame as a result. Just remember that no matter who’s at fault, blaming yourself, your ex, or anyone else won’t change what’s happened.
Cut Off Contact For Good – It’s Not Going To Help Anyone:
Regardless of the reason behind your breakup, I always think a time frame of no contact is extremely beneficial. A quick text here or a short call there to see how they’re doing is not going to help you. You may feel that speaking to them is the only thing you want and need but I promise you, it will cause more heartache than you realise.
Ever heard of the no contact rule? No? Well, let me introduce you.
See The Positives Of Your Break Up And Embrace Your New Freedom:
You have no one to answer to anymore, you’re a free woman! Get out their and experience anything and everything you never got to experience before.
Feeling lonely? Feel like you have a void to fill? Finding the perfect match is not going to make that feeling go away. The only way to change that is to embrace yourself and discover what you’re really about.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s lovely having someone to go out there and experience new things with but you don’t need them. Learning to be happy alone is one of the most important lessons you could teach yourself and If you’re able to truly understand yourself it won’t matter whether you’re with 1, 10 or 100 people.
Self Reflect And Discover Your True Self:
There’s never been a better time to go and discover your true self. You’ll be surprised what a breakup can make you see. Stuff that you were oblivious to before will all of a sudden appear. So get yourself out there and go ahead and make yourself feel good. Treat yourself to a manicure or a new outfit because you
Get Yourself Back Out There:
Last but not least, don’t stay single forever. Putting yourself back out there can be extremely tough but when you’re ready, you’ll know. Make yourself open to meeting new people but don’t stress if it doesn’t happen straight away. The best things come when we least expect them so don’t worry, your man is out there and he’s coming to find you.
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Have you ever been through a tough breakup and pulled through the other side? Make sure to let us know how you managed to do it in the comment section below. Everyone loves a good break up story!