Don’t Let The Label Define You
Today is such an important post for me, although personally, I don’t have Autism/ Asperger’s I know so many people that do. Autism affects more than 1 in 100 people – fact. Over 700,000 people in the UK are autistic, which means that 2.8m people have a relative on the autism spectrum.
If I turned around and asked you to point out somebody with Autism in the street? would you be able to? Your answer would be no. Just at a glance, you would never notice Autism, so what is this label, is it an illness or a disease? If you are able to answer yes to that question I strongly advise you carry on reading.
The reason for my post today is that I want to share with people who may have recently heard of the term ‘Autism’ or ‘Asperges’ and are sitting back wondering “is that me?”. Recently someone very close to me bravely opened up and discussed the possibility of them being part of this spectrum. I want to dedicate this post to them so they can stop letting a label define them and know their worth.
Here is my open letter to you…
Dear He Who Must Not Be Named (Voldemort Himself),
Firstly I apologise for comparing you to Voldemort as I promise you, you are a lot better looking than him. He would be extremely jealous of your cute little button nose. Anyway, I wanted to dedicate this letter to you today as you are a true inspiration to me and I sometimes think you don’t realise how much you are. So here it goes…
I absolutely hate that you see yourself as useless and sometimes feel abnormal compared to others. This is far from the truth and couldn’t be further from the way I and many others see you. Yes, some people may be better in social situations than you but in my eyes, that’s just a talent. One of many traits and talents that each person born into this world will receive. I don’t label myself as autistic and I’m terrible in social situations so don’t let that define you.
You aren’t disabled, you don’t have an illness and it’s no way near a disease, you just think a little differently that’s all. I get it, you don’t want to be different… But I wouldn’t want you to be the same. You are you and despite how much you can annoy me from time to time, I wouldn’t have you any other way. You are the most caring and thoughtful person I have EVER met and you ALWAYS put everyone before yourself. Now that’s just one of many amazing traits you have, so please don’t focus on the traits you don’t have, focus on the ones you do.
I’m not going to beat around the bush.. you can make things difficult for me every now and then but I’m far from perfect in that department. I have my issues and problems just as much as you do and I’m sure I can make it just as difficult. That’s what is so special about us, we make it work and understand each other. You accept me for me and I 100% accept you for you.
When I look at you I don’t see a guy with asperges, I see the guy that loves to play COD and has probably spent fewer hours breathing oxygen than the amount of time you’ve played this. The same guy that eats so much food but never puts on any weight but despite his fit body, he loves me for the chunk I am. The one who has the BEST taste in music although I don’t like to admit that to him too often. Despite him hating musicals he’s also taken me to see 2 in the last year and sang every song by my side. Last but not least, that guy that spends hours playing with my little brother because he knows how happy it makes me and how much my family love him.
You are so perfect to me and I wish you could see, please read this and realise your worth and how important you are to so many people in this world. You are an incredible asset to this planet regardless of the label society puts on you.
I would just like to thank each and every one of you for taking the time to read this post as it is very important to me. If you are affected or know somebody who struggles with any of the above, just remember that label does not define them. So many people in this world get affected by the labels society give them and it’s not fair. As you know, it is World Autism Awareness Week and if you do wish to get involved, you can find many different ways over at The National Autism Society